Laugh together
Find out what makes your person laugh. Silly TikTok or reel dance moves? Inside jokes make the connection strong and feel like togetherness or a sense that “you get me”. Laughing releases endorphins (the feel-good hormones), promoting social bonding and alleviating tensions or distress that you may feel with each other. It’s no wonder some partners try to break the tension by cracking a joke! Go ahead, get laughing with your special person to spark a connection.
Plan time together
Nothing says “I love you” more than wanting to be with you. Even during busy times, it can mean a lot to see your person and take time out of your busy day to reconnect. Carving specific time out of your day like supper time, during a coffee break, or in the evening for cuddles, can refill your cup again and remind you why all the other stuff may be worth doing.
Ask about your partner’s day
Sometimes we fall into the usual patterns, doing all the adult responsibilities and tasks that even our interactions with one another are strained and poor. It becomes about did you do this and that instead of about YOU. A simple check-in with your important person, by phone, email, and even text if you can’t be in person, reminds them that they matter most, no matter what else is going on. Checking in to see “where they are at” keeps the lines of communication open and strong, no matter how busy you both are.
Express appreciation and gratitude
It can be easier to focus on what needs to be done or what isn’t working, than to take time to focus on what’s going well and what you are grateful for. Expressing gratitude and appreciation lets your person feel valued, seen, and heard. And believe it or not, the more appreciation you give, seems to translate into getting more too! It’s a win/win for you both!
Recognize your love
Remind yourself of your love and why you are together. Look over pictures together from your special times with each other, like dating, holidays, trips, and even milestones (like the birth of your child or your wedding day), and reminisce on those special memories and moments. Consider what you were thinking, what you were feeling about each other. Hey, this is also a good reminder to consider when your last date actually was. If nothing is in the calendar, book some special time for just the two of you! Time to create new memories and special moments together!
