The science of laughing and crying in relationships

Love and laughter go together

— and so does a reliable shoulder to cry on

In this blog post, our couples therapist Natalie Bergman talks about the science of laughing and crying in a couples relationship context.

Natalie Bergman, MA, RPsych
COUPLES THERAPIST

Ana Hoepfner, BEc
COMMUNICATIONS

Emotions in our relationship: it’s all in the mix

In every relationship, there’s a mix of sweet and salty moments—times when you laugh together and times when you cry. Interestingly, research shows that laughter plays a significant role in deepening emotional connections and creating a healthy, lasting relationship.

Laughing together

Couples who laugh together tend to have stronger relationships. Shared laughter helps build emotional closeness, increases feelings of similarity, and can even improve relationship satisfaction. According to studies, couples who laugh together are more likely to feel connected because shared humour signals that they see the world in a similar way.

Crying together

On the flip side, crying together also strengthens bonds. Emotional tears release stress hormones, allowing partners to feel more vulnerable and connected during difficult times. When you’re able to be emotionally open with your partner, whether through sadness or joy, you build a deeper level of trust and intimacy.

So, whether you’re laughing or crying, both experiences contribute to a well-rounded and emotionally rich relationship. Embrace the “salt and sugar” of your relationship—it’s what helps you grow together!

Then the spicy spark will show up naturally.

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