Infidelity is one of the most challenging issues
a couple can face —
But with the right support, recovery is possible.
In this blog post, our couples therapist Natalie Bergman delves into infidelity, one of the most common reasons that brings couples to couples counselling.
Meet the author
Natalie Bergman, MA, RPsych
COUPLES THERAPIST
Meet the editor
Ana Hoepfner, BEc
COMMUNICATIONS
Recovery from infidelity is possible
Infidelity is one of the most challenging issues a couple can face, but it can be overcome. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) offers a structured approach to help couples heal from the emotional wounds caused by infidelity and rebuild trust in their relationship.
Forgiveness is a crucial component of healing from infidelity. EFT helps couples navigate the complex process of forgiveness by addressing both partners’ emotional experiences and facilitating a deeper emotional connection. This connection is the foundation for rebuilding trust and moving forward together.
Factors positively correlated to infidelity
Recent studies suggest that there is a correlation between education level and infidelity, with people holding higher degrees being more likely to engage in it, often influenced by various life factors. Moreover, individuals with higher incomes tend to be more prone to infidelity, likely due to increased opportunities in professional environments. Interestingly, about half of all infidelity cases involve partners meeting their extradyadic partners at work, highlighting the influence of the workplace on these behaviours.
The extensive fallout of infidelity
Infidelity can deeply damage relationships, often leading to separation or divorce, while also severely impacting emotional well-being. It can amplify depressive symptoms, trigger low self-esteem, and cause significant psychological distress, mirroring conditions like depression and anxiety. The betrayal challenges an individual’s sense of self and trust, sometimes leading to unhealthy coping mechanisms, including substance abuse and suicidal behaviour.
In the aftermath of infidelity, heartbreak exposes a multitude of issues and brings up complicated emotions in both partners. Couples counselling helps couples explore their personal and relational issues prior to the affair, how to address those deeper issues and communicate in healthier ways.
Although healing from infidelity is a difficult journey, with the support of emotionally focused couples therapy, couples can rebuild their emotional bond, restore trust, and offer each other the possibility to create a stronger, more connected, and resilient relationship.
